Have you ever noticed that sometimes you know exactly what you want to do… and yet something still stops you?
You know you’re meant to share your gifts. You know you’re meant to speak up. You know you’re meant to charge more, take up space, be visible, and trust yourself.
And yet somehow, every time you get close, something pulls you back.
For a long time, I thought this was simply fear. Lack of confidence. Imposter syndrome.
But the deeper I went into my spiritual journey, the more I realized that many of us are carrying patterns that didn’t begin with us — patterns passed through generations, reinforced through culture, and woven into the collective consciousness for centuries.
In many spiritual traditions, these patterns can be understood as vows.
And whether you believe in past lives, ancestral memory, or simply collective conditioning, their effects can still be felt today.
The Vows We Never Realized We Were Carrying
Most people never consciously choose these vows. Yet they show up in the same ways.
You struggle to charge for your work. You question your authority. You downplay your gifts. You hide your voice. You stay small even when part of you knows you’re meant for more.
When I look at the spiritual women I work with, I often see three patterns appearing again and again.
The Poverty Vow. The Obedience Vow. And the Chastity Vow.
Whether we call them vows, conditioning, or inherited beliefs matters less than recognizing how they continue to shape our lives.
The Poverty Vow
This is the belief that spirituality and wealth cannot coexist. That if you are truly spiritual, you should not want money. That serving others and being compensated for your gifts somehow contradict one another.
Many spiritual women carry a deep internal conflict around receiving. They want to help people. They want to serve. But the moment money enters the conversation, guilt appears.
Charging feels uncomfortable. Raising prices feels wrong. Receiving support feels selfish.
And so they end up trapped between their desire to serve and their desire to thrive.
The irony is that this often keeps their gifts hidden from the very people they are here to help. Because when we make money wrong, we often make visibility wrong too.
The Obedience Vow
The obedience vow teaches us that someone else knows better. That authority exists outside of us. That our role is to follow rather than trust ourselves.
This pattern can show up in subtle ways — waiting for permission, constantly seeking another certification, needing someone else to validate what you already know. Doubting your intuition. Seeking approval before taking action.
Many women spend years gathering knowledge while ignoring the wisdom already living within them. Not because they are incapable. But because they have been conditioned to trust authority more than their own knowing.
The result is a life lived according to other people’s expectations rather than their own truth.
The Chastity Vow
This is perhaps the most hidden of all.
The chastity vow teaches that spirituality requires the denial of desire. That to be pure, holy, or worthy, a woman must suppress parts of herself — her sexuality, her sensuality, her pleasure, her magnetism, her life force.
For centuries, many spiritual traditions taught women that these qualities were dangerous. Something to be controlled rather than embraced.
The result is that many women learned to separate themselves from their own power. Not because they lacked it. But because they were taught to fear it. To disconnect from their bodies. To distrust their desires. To dim their magnetism. To make themselves smaller, quieter, more acceptable.
Yet the irony is that the very qualities we suppress are the ones that make us radiant — our sensuality, our creativity, our aliveness, our ability to attract, receive, and create.
A woman disconnected from her life force often struggles to access her full power. Not because something is wrong with her. But because she has been taught to deny a part of herself that was never meant to be denied.
The healing is not about becoming more spiritual. It is about becoming whole. Reclaiming the parts of yourself that were taught they were too much. And remembering that your sexuality, pleasure, magnetism, and feminine power are not obstacles to your spiritual path. They are part of it.
Why This Matters
These patterns don’t just affect how you feel. They affect what you allow yourself to do.
They influence how visible you become. How much you charge. How boldly you share your gifts. How freely you express yourself. How much trust you place in your own wisdom.
The woman who keeps delaying her work. The healer who struggles to charge. The teacher who fears being seen. The writer who never publishes. The channel who constantly doubts her messages.
Very often, there is nothing wrong with their gifts. There is simply conditioning that needs to be seen clearly.
Reclaiming Your Voice
The goal is not to fight these patterns. The goal is to become aware of them.
Because once you see them, you have a choice. You can continue living from them — or you can begin creating something new.
A new relationship with visibility. With money. With power. With your voice.
You don’t need permission to trust yourself. You don’t need permission to share your gifts. You don’t need permission to take up space. And you certainly don’t need permission to become who you already are.
The Real Work
The real work is not becoming someone new. It is remembering the parts of yourself that were never truly lost.
The parts that know how to lead. To create. To serve. To shine.
Not through force. Not through proving. Not through perfection. But through presence. Through embodiment. Through allowing yourself to be seen.
If You’re Ready to Stop Hiding
Many women know they have gifts. The challenge isn’t discovering them.
The challenge is allowing themselves to fully own them — to stop shrinking, stop waiting, stop asking for permission.
Chosen was created for exactly this- a space for the woman who knows she is here for more, but is ready to release the conditioning, fear, and self-doubt that have kept her hidden.
Because the world doesn’t need a smaller version of you. It needs the one who is finally willing to be seen.
If something in you recognizes yourself in these words, t’s time to stop waiting.
To trust your voice.
To trust your gifts.
To trust the woman you’re becoming.
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